I managed to get up and go to see Dr. Pennington this afternoon. He thinks the cyst in my hand may need surgery in the future, as it is affecting the tendon. He didn’t think my diastolic blood pressure was too low – I do, but he may know better (it was in the 50s when he took it; when the nurse took it it was 41; the systolic is in the high 20s, which is fine). On the mono and the PTH he was in disagreement with Dr. Sivieri’s diagnosis. What to do now?
My idea of a possible solution: I sent an email to Dr. Sivieri (as he is the younger one) and explained what was happening. I told him that I went to see Dr. Pennington today for my blood pressure and a cyst in my hand, and also to discuss the results of the tests, and that Dr P doesn’t seem convinced that what I have is reactivated mono.
I explained to him that this is a very difficult situation for me, as Dr. P is our pcp, and we need to trust him. However, I also want to trust Dr S. So, I asked him if a phone consultation with Dr P would be possible, so that they could both discuss what’s going on and why they have different perspectives. I emphasized that I know doctors are somewhat reluctant about this, but it is precisely the only way to deal with a “shared” patient – through consultation.
We’ll see now what he replies. That has always been the case with doctors. When Guido was so sick, he had about nine different doctors seeing him (some at Johns Hopkins Hospital and others at the Mayo Clinic, besides all the individual ones). They never communicated with one another. How is this possible? Do they think they are gods or royalty and cannot talk to their peers? Or — it may be for fear of finding out they are not as good as they think…
I am curious to see if he answers my email and what he says. I’ll post it here too.
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I put these two “thoughts” in my Facebook profile. I got them from other friends there. They express my sentiments too. Strange (and funny) that they are in Italian and French — nothing similar in English…
* Tieniti strette quelle persone che riescono a renderti le giornate migliori, quelle che ti strappano un sorriso non appena ti è scesa una lacrima. Quelle persone che riescono a capire quando hai bisogno di parole o di silenzio, tieniti strette quelle uniche persone che non ti dicono mille volte quanto tengono a te, ma lo farebbero ogni qualvolta tu lo chiedessi e quando ne hai più bisogno.
* On dit que les bons amis peuvent passer de longues périodes sans se parler et sans se voir, sans jamais mettre en doute leur amitié. Quand ils se voient, ils se mettent à jour comme s’ils s’étaient vu la veille, sans considérer le temps passé et combien ils ont été éloignés. Si tu as ce genre d’amis, copie cette phrase sur ton mur : ils se reconnaîtront.